It has to be perfect, or it does not count.
You hold it together for everyone. Who holds it together for you?
Flexi is a skills app for perfectionists, people pleasers and anyone who holds on too tight: small everyday skills, taught by Flexi in seconds, and nothing you write is ever saved.
Take the free Grip Check: name your pattern in 2 minutes
- Saves nothing you write
- Paid safely through Apple, Google or Shopify
- Written by a licensed clinical social worker
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Two minutes a day. Three simple tabs.
- TodayOne small skill a day, Flexi showing you how, a one minute game and an I practiced this tick.
- SkillsAll 86 skills in nine groups. Search a moment like saying no, or start with three picks.
- MeYour practice count, the monthly Flexi Five check in and your settings. Nothing you write is ever saved.
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Every Flexi Method skill
Built for overcontrol
Private by design
iPhone and Android
Got Overcontrol?
Sound familiar?
Counting how many of these sound like you? Same. Flexi is here to help.
PerfectionismGood is never good enough.Learn more
People pleasingYou hide your needs and keep a polite face.Learn more
Always being the strong oneEveryone leans on you. You lean on no one.Learn more
Control and certainty seekingNot knowing feels unbearable.Learn more
Holding it all inYou are fine. Always fine.Learn more
You are not the only one. Not even close. Most of us are just really good at hiding it. Underneath all five is the same quiet cost: feeling alone, even around people.
Tap the ones that sound like you
Who we loosen the grip with.
Nothing you tap is saved. It just helps you see yourself for a second.
Take the free Grip Check
The Six Shifts
From grip to loose, one shift at a time
You hold yourself to a standard nobody else could meet, then wonder why it feels lonely up there. Every Flexi skill helps with one of six shifts. Start with the one that grips you hardest.
There is a right way, and it is mine.
If I might fail, I will not start.
Nothing I do is ever enough.
It is too much, so I keep busy and pull away.
I say yes, then quietly resent it.
Not sure which shift is yours? Take the free Grip Check.
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Which one sounds most like you?
Twelve quick statements in plain words. See which patterns grip you hardest and where to start.
Meet Flexi
Every skill has a pose you can copy.
Flexi is a goofy stick figure who shows each skill as a pose on a yoga mat. Copy the pose, then try the skill for real. You will find Flexi in the app, on the Flexi! card game and in the Flexi Shorts.
Feel Safe
FM 1.1Settle and SignalLean back, breathe slow and soften your face so your body tells everyone it is safe.
Notice
FM 2.1Name the MomentSay what shows up inside you, one thing at a time.
Open Up
FM 3.1Pause and OpenWhen you feel defensive, pause, breathe and stay open.
Feel It
FM 4.1Blush and RepairOwn a slip, let it show, then make it right.
Bend
FM 5.1Feedback FriendlyHear what stings, keep what helps and try one change.
Get Curious
FM 6.1Curious QuestionAsk yourself what you might need to learn here.
Connect
FM 7.1Let Go to ConnectLoosen control and lead with kindness.
Signal
FM 8.1Spot the PushNotice when your signals push people away.
Live Your Values
FM 9.1Values LeadDecide what matters most, then let your words and body show it.
One skill from each of the nine groups. All 86 skills have their own pose.
Three of the nine groups. All 86 skills have their own pose.
Meet every pose
Free games · 1 minute each
Play a round.
Spot the grip thought, see which way you lean, or draw a card. Nothing is saved.
Why you can trust Flexi
Made with care, for people who hold on tight.
LICSW
Designed by a licensed clinical social worker
Every skill is written in plain words by someone who has spent years helping people loosen the grip.
86
Small skills, nothing to master
Each one takes about two minutes, with Flexi showing you the pose so it sticks in a real moment.
0
Streaks to break
Times practiced add up and never reset. Miss a week and there is nothing to catch up on.
100%
Private by design
Nothing you tap or write is saved. Flexi mirrors the moment, then forgets it. No ads, nothing to sell.
Start today
Loosen the grip, one small skill at a time.
All 86 skills with their steps, search and a daily game. Your Skill of the day stays free. Cancel anytime.
$99a year
About $8.25 a month, a saving of $20.88 on monthly. Or $9.99 a month.
Get launch day access On iPhone and Android. Cancel anytime in your store settings.What is Flexi?
An app for learning and practicing the Flexi Method skills. Use it on your own, or alongside therapy if you have it.
Does it replace therapy?
No. Flexi is a skills app, not therapy. You learn, practice and grow at your own pace, and it works well alongside a therapist if you have one.
How much does it cost?
$99 a year or $9.99 a month, paid through Apple or Google. Both plans include all 86 skills, search and the daily game. Your Skill of the day is free.
Who can see what I tap or type?
Nobody. Flexi does not save it. Only your practice ticks stay, on your phone.
Do I need a therapist to use it?
No. You can learn and practice every skill on your own, at your own pace.
